How to Address Children with Challenging Behaviors in an Early Childhood Environment (EC-4)

So he starts crying or he’s about to cry,
so I can say: “Tim, you can either go to the reading center, or you can go to the blocks.” That’s given him choices, trying to avoid that crying from
happening. What I can’t do, is say: “Tim, you’re crying.
You’re going to the timeout corner or your thinking chair.” Because, I’m reinforcing he escaping
the activity he doesn’t want to do. You see how that works? He knows that if he cries, he’s going to a ‘time out’ so I don’t have
to go to the sand table. So I can reinforce the behavior that I
don’t want to appear. So give them choices, ‘your choices.’
What would you like them to do. You have to be a little flexible with
this challenging behaviors ’cause these are your kiddos that are not going to
respond to what the majority of your class
respond So if it’s… If the if he must go to this sand
table let’s negociate them. Can you do it for
two minutes and then you’ll go here or go to the reading center and then come
here for three minutes? but if it’s not a requirement, let’s go and be flexible, and give him
some choices to prevent that behavior from happening. Ok? So I’m going to help you have a great day tomorrow. What I’m going to do is, every time that I see
that you’re not listening, I’m going to give you a warning and I’m gonna go:
“Tim, this is your first warning.” Then I’m going to let you have some time so you can join us back in the classroom and
do what I’ve asked you to do. and if you still not listening, I’m going to say:
“Tim, this is your second warning.” but after that Tim, if you’re not listening
to Mrs. Armstrong, I’m gonna have to take it you to the thinking chair. and you’re going to have to stay there for three minutes until I ask you to come back and join us. So Tim starts crying and I say: “Tim, this is
your first warning.” I’m gonna walk away and continue doing
what I was doing, attending other children, whatever is
that you were doing. Give him a moment or so, then go back: “Tim, this is your second
warning.” if Tim is still not responding,
again, given a minute or two, then come back take his hand walk him to the thinking chair.
Do not engage in conversation you don’t need to say:
“Tim, I told you yesterday…” or you don’t need to give him the look or
anything like that because they know that you are upset,
they know they have control over you instead of you having control of your
classroom. So you’re going to walking him,
and you’re going to sit him down. Of course it sounds perfect, but the
reality is: Tim is not going to stay in that chair, is he?
No. team has been a run around the classroom screaming, kicking, pushing,
throwing things around. So the first few days it’s gonna be rough. It’s gonna be worse
than it was at the beginning. What you have to do though, you’re gonna have to walk, and get him again. Don’t run, don’t call him, don’t get upset.
He’s playing you, he’s manipulating you if you break at this point,
he got you. Ok? So walks many times
as you need to do it. sit him back twenty, thirty times but I promise you, if you do it, next time you’re not going to chase him
twenty times.
You might chase him maybe only fifteen. and the next day maybe ten, and it will come to the time
that he’ll just stay there and the last thing about your
consequences this is very important too, once he stay in the chair, I’m going to bent over and look him in the eye and I’m going to say “You weren’t listening to Mrs. Armstrong. That’s
why I ask you to stay here for three minutes. I want you to apologize.” and you’re goign to wait for that apology
if he’s still crying, you’re going to say: “I see that you’re not ready, so I’m going to
give you another two more minutes.” and you walk away
until the crying is done, and he’s ready to apologize, then we’ll have that
conversation why it was wrong what he did you get your apology, and you go back to business… …and you’ll probably need to know
somebody to support you since you had that conversation with the co teacher
it’s thankfully not going to be all twenty of your kiddos that need that so you’re going to focus those few first days
in attending that kiddo that needs to really work in that
consequence because once those first two weeks are past you gonna get control of your classroom again and you’re not going to have to deal
with Tim twenty times a day. It’s not easy, but I promise you that it
works. …So it’s very important that we work on this three,
physical environment, rules and expectations, your routines… …and a little secret here,
like I’ve said before, demonstrate genuine interest for your
kiddos because they can sense that. Just like, for example when your boss
goes into your center. Do you know if he likes you know, or she likes you? Can you sense that? if they say hello, do you feel like it’s
genuine or not? if we can sense that, kids can sense that too. …to prevent the behavior from happening,
and have those behaviors that we want to see
happen more often instead so those are called reinforcements
things that we do to either make something happen more often,
or extinguished something in this case behavior We want to focus on the
positive reinforcement these are the things that we do
That we’re… give us more positive behaviors in the classroom… …so here’s the golden rule for behavior make sure you say Yes, Do, and Go. Tell kids what you want
them to do. What you want them to be. How you want them to react, and avoid using No, Stop, and Don’t… …I’m going to give you a three-step solution that I wanted to start implementing
or thinking right away about the kids about you children in the classroom… … so, the first thing I want you to do
is to observe, like we talked about. I’ve already told you how to do it, the things they need
to pay attention to. You are going to plan, and you are going to act. Observe is once again it’s what are you
doing? What is your co teacher doing with the behavior is happening? Where is that behavior happening? Is it
only when we are outside? Is it only during circle time?… …and also know your patterns. How often does it happens. Is it everyday? Is it the everytime I ask him to do this? Is that every time mom brings him to
school? or dad brings him to school? when I ask you don’t plan is to research look for books, look for a magazine’s,
google it, talk to your out to you more experienced teachers, teachers they
have been in the education field forever, your teacher next door. They
have ideas, you share ideas before and maybe you hear something new that you
can start implementing in your classroom… …in then the next day, go in there with your
plan, make sure you are consistent with your plan… …and monitor your results. Ok, what I’m
doing seems to be working. What I’ve tried today in the classroom gave me
some results. If it didn’t, always give some time. Behavior takes some
time to change. and then if you still, you know, you give it a
couple of weeks
not working then go back to step two, to plan and research, ask for help. We’re there to help you. I’m going to go through the framework of
what we’ve reviewed today, and this covers everything we saw today. So just to go by, very quickly… We talk about functions of the behavior,
remember they either want to get something, or they want to avoid something. We talked about having a plan that
you’re going to observe, you gonna plan you are gonna act. This is going to be your
three-step solution to your behaviors. We talked about classroom management. How it’s not just out to you there’s the families involved, the
students and teachers, but what you can control is what happens in your classroom,
and you can do that by arranging their physical environment, the
rules and expectations, and routines. Not only the routines but focusing in
the procedures. Your children need to know and master
those procedures. We talked about positive reinforcements
and negative reinforcements and when she said where focuses in
preventing those behaviors from happening rather than having to deal with them
afterwards, and always remember the golden rule use words such as Yes, Do, Go, and avoid using words such No, Don’t, Stop. …Here’s my contact information all of this information is gonna be in our website or Facebook.
You can reach us there. If you wanna,
If you want other people to get uh… the framework,
they can download that from our, from our website. Ok?
[Lady from the public]: Please we all give Mrs. Armstrong an applause [Mrs. Armstrong]:Thanks you, thank you so much.
[Lady from the public]: to show her how much we appreciate her…
[Mrs. Armstrong]: I appreciate that… Thanks you ladies, This is yours, take one a pass the others…

Comments 19

  • Society has changed since all this required nice, huggy, lovey, cuddly, warm environment. That's not what real life jobs are like and you're conditioning children to experience extreme culture shock when no one is around to "give him choices" and kiss his booboos. In my opinion it's a reason most these kids feel so entitled too, make them believe they're special or wonderful. Feel bad for the poor dummies get their first factory jobs and no ones there to pamper them. Crumbles or quits day 1.

  • A brief comment: Whatever if the child doesn't like the choices given (it's either this or that)? Tantrums erupt when there is dual needs (teacher's and child's) needing to be met. Prevent challenging behavior by taking the perspective of the child. What does the child really want? Throwing a block inside is unacceptable. How about offering to roll a ball on the ground to another friend? Does the child know how to appropriately get want he wants? If not, show him how.

  • very good explanation

  • how do you determine if you are dealing with a severe behavioral disorder or if there's something more? thank you.

  • Unless you work for an organization that does not allow you to put a child in time out.

  • Excellent Video, I will try this with my granddaughter.

  • well done my sister … very good

  • Excellent Video, I will try this with my son.

  • I love these strategies. unfortunately we can't have a "thinking chair", "timeout", or "reflecting time" in my school district.

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  • Sounds perfect But what do you do with twins that scream and shout when crying or if they don't get things the way they want ?…

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  • Waaa? Super nanny techniques !!!!! Who took whose ideas ??

  • Very helpful!!! Life saver ..Thank you =)

  • My first week of introduction to child development and I'm already learning a lot.

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  • When I was in school, my teachers spanked. They told us one time not 10. It took a few minutes. The didn't have to say anything. The behavior was stopped and not repeated. Class went on. End of discussion. We weren't given choices. We were kids for crying out loud. We had respect and didn't feel like entitled spoiled rotten brats. We didn't feel the world revolved around us. We didn't cry over "crybaby". We were tough. We are now raising a bunch of weak men and woman who will fall apart in the real world. How did our society become so ignorant?

  • The thinking chair was so fun. I got to take a break from class. 😆

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